INTRODUCTION

Touch. We love to touch. We are indeed tactile, sensual beings, lie perceive the world through our senses, and un¬affected by -what wc-receive. Sight, sound, taste, touch, swell - of all the senses, touching perhaps affects us the most deeply.

Touch communicates, brings closeness, restores and arouses. From infancy, we use touch to find out about the world, to explore, reach out and confirm.

Through touch we are able to affirm or transform our relationships, find out information and notal or hide ourselves. Touch tells us who we are, it gives us a sense of ourselves, allows us to make contact and feel we are not alone. We use touch for pleasure, to bring relationships closer, to comfort and accept. Instinctively we feel people as they walk into a room -touch brings that contact closer, makes it real.

Our senses and feelings can give us balance and satisfaction. They are an antidote to a thinking, technical -world. In order to find such a balance, we need to turn our focus to our senses, re-examine our surroundings, and see how they make us feel. We need to have an environment where we can feel, let go freely, where we can open up emotionally, receive plea¬sure and relax. Taking care to have around us objects that we like, inspiring shapes, softness, and curves. Paying attention to color, materials, scents and sounds, for each sensation conveys something to us.


In exploring the sensual world and our responses to it, we naturally increase our use of touch. Touching our surroundings, the people we encounter, those we are close to, and those we love. As lovers we are particularly vulnerable and open to each other - touch can give immense pleasure or cause physical pain.

The way that we, as lovers, touch defines the bond between us. Through sensuality we explore and find delight in each other, heightening both arousal and awareness. Pleasing each other, we bring the other closer, increasing our sense of lov¬ing and being loved.

Massage celebrates sensuality. It is an experience of giving and receiving, of exploring and opening to each other. It is a way of pleasing and relaxing, releasing stress mid tension and creates a profound feeling of well-being. By giving mas¬sage we are caring for each other in a very real and loving way. In getting to know each other better, we increase the trust and sharing vital for a loving relationship to thrive.
 
Massage can be used for simple relaxation - as a way of easing tired muscles, calming the mind, uplifting the spirit and restoring our natural energy. Having the ability to do this for our partner gives a special satisfaction, a feeling of confidence and warmth. For our partner, allow-ing a caring touch to discover and ease away stress and tensions is a statement of openness and their trust in us.


Intimate massage combines basic massage techniques, designed to relax and keep muscles healthy, with added sensual arousal and the spontaneity of loving touch. With sensual massage, each one pleasures and satisfies the other, creating an intimate, loving, two-way flow. There is no right way to do it, it depends on a shared experience. If our attention is on our partner, we will be concerned only with their happiness, and a tender sensitivity will develop. The beauty of a sensual, intimate massage is that it enhances our relationship, by increasing knowledge, vitality and joy.

The sensual massage in this site will take you about an hour to give. The relaxation massage takes about twenty minutes. If you don't have a full hour to spare, you can concentrate on one particular area of your partners body, giving that area your full loving attention.

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Preparing for MASSAGE

Preparing for a sensual massage can be a sensual experience in itself It sets the mood, and the care and thought put into it will increase your enjoyment of the massage.

Mixing and using oils can be extremely satis-fying. There arc various oils that you can use, and finding a combination that suits you is often just a matter of experimentation. The 'carrier' or 'base' oil is the basic oil used to allow the hands to glide freely over the skin. Crapeseed, a light vegetable oil withnur a heavy smell, is a very good carrier oil.

Almond oil, a slightly sweeter, thicker oil, feels more luxurious on the skin. Oils of avocado and apricot are rich, nourishing oils, which may be added to make a mixture fuller. Oil of jojoba is a beautiful, more expensive oil, which is particularly good for massaging the face.

Another group of oils, essential oils, are added to the carrier oil to enhance the effect of massages. Containing the essential nature of a plant, they are extremely potent, and you need only use a few drops. Traditionally essential oils are used for the treatment of various con¬ditions and they should not be used directly on the skin. For example, for relaxation, use lavender, a particularly useful, fresh, healing oil, or chamomile, which ha.' a calming, seda¬tive effect. In order to get to know them, try them separately at first, mixing a couple of drops into some oil. For heightening sensual arousal, try oils known as aphrodisiacs -sandalwood, a woody, sedating, eastern scent; patchouli, a more stimulating, sweet, dark odor; or ylang ylang, which has an euphoric, sweet, floral smell. Experiment with these oils and sec which ones attract you. Perhaps the most beautiful of oils, and also the most expensive, are delicate neroli (orange blossom), which sedates; exotic jasmine, which uplifts; and luxurious, soothing oil of rose.

Also reputed to have aphrodisiacal properties, these are evocative, irresistibly heady scents.  you will find a list of oils and their properties and some recipes for you to try out. Although mixing can be extremely satisfying, you can if you prefer, buy ready mixed oils.

There are various oils that you can use, and finding a combination that suits you is often just a matter of experimentation. You can make up as much as you like. If you Stan with Ifloz (28ml) of base oil vou will make enough oil for about four massages. The ratio you should remember is use up to, but not more than, 12 drops of essential oil per Ifloz (2Sml) of base oil. For the massage you can use a shallow dish in which to put some oil, or use a small bottle with a stopper. If you are planning to massage frequently, you could prepare a
mixture by filling 1 or 2floz (28 or 54ml) glass bottles. If you add an optional teaspoon of wheat germ oil the mixture is preserved for a longer period.

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Relaxation

Before starting a massage it is important to tune into how you and your partner feel. Take all  the time you need to relax together. When you are ready, try some gentle breathing to relax your mind and body. Lying on your back, knees bent, place your hands on your abdomen (top right). Simply allow your body to breathe naturally, feeling the rise and fall of your hands. After free or ten minutes, move and let each part of your body relax in turn. Then drawing your knees up to your chest, spread your amis, and slowly lower your left leg, and then your right leg, to the floor (bottom right). Next do this in reverse. This gives a wonderful stretch but does not strain

Head and Shoulder Movement

Standing or sitting with your spine straight, drop your head forwards on to your chest. Now very slowly start cirling your head round to the left.Let you head roll smoothly, making the circle generous without any strain. Continue round to the right, then roll the other way, completing the circle at your chest. Raise your head slowly.Then , roll each shoulder in turn, slowly and evenly, focusing only on that movement.

After mixing up the oils it is important to make sure you have everything you need before beginning massage, so that you can give your full attention to your partner. The surface on which you massage should be comfortable but firm, giving your partner's body full support. You may need towels for warmth, and pillows to raise your partner's body. Have a supply of tissues, some water, and containers for the oil. Check to make sure the containers are well-balanced as it is extremely easy to knock them over as you move.

Before giving a massage, it is important also to prepare yourself Never give a massage if you are tired. The contact between you and your partner becomes so close that almost your very thoughts can be sensed. Take time with your partner to gently relax your body. Allow your mind to clear, let go of any preoccupations, focusing your thoughts on your partner and yourself. Gentle breathing and body sensing, followed by muscle relaxation, help increase your inner balance. In order to relax the spine and release any neck or shoulder tension, follow the simple but effective movements shown here. Use the floor to give you support, and keep each action precise, focusing your mind entirely on the sensation, feeling your joints and muscles flow. You and your partner can do these exercises together or you can ask your partner to watch you, giving you help through feedback or touch. After the exercises, ask your partner to gently massage your neck head and shoulders.

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Spine Movements

To relax the spine, sit on your heels, your forehead on the floor. Now slowly stan uncurling your spine, one vertebra at a time, until yon reach a sitting position. Your lower back works first, and your head comes last, rolling up evenly through the spine.

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Self Massage

To relax the neck muscles, yon can use some simple self-massage. Hold your hand over the back of your neck, arching in the middle to avoid the spine, with the heel of your hand on one side and your fingertipsaand heel towards each  other. Now by raising the arch of your hand, bring your fingertips and heel toward each other, gently working and squeezing the muscles on either side of your spine. With a rhythmic motion, work up your neck muscles to the base of your skull, where a lot of tension collects. Spend some time here and then work back down again. Use a pressure that feels comfortable. Drop your head slightly to open your neck muscles, slowly straightening as you reach the base of your skull.

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Art of Touching

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Shoulder Massage

To ease your neck and shoulders, ask your partner to massage them for you. Your partner's fingers should be placed over your shoulders, without squeezing, so the thumbs are free to gently knead and press. The thumbs can circle, press and squeeze the muscles, starting about an inch nut from the spine on either side. From here the movement mutants, squeezing and lifting, .out along the top of the shoulders. Returning to the spine, your partner should continue the movement downwards, keeping the same position of the bands. .Is your partner feels knots and tension, he should pay them special mention. It feels particularly good to be massaged between the shoulder blades.

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Good TECHNIQUES

Massage is about touch, and touch is communication. Thoughts and feelings can be communicated through our hands. How we touch can reflect and alter our partner's feelings and our own, which flow back and forth as our partner responds. The quality of our touch can transform a massage into a beautifully evocative, creative experience. However, no matter how gentle a person's feelings are for their partner, massage involves

However, no matter how gentle a person's feelings are for their partner, massage involves structured touch, which must be learnt to be accomplished properly. The three basic types of touch, which are used regularly are effleurage, petrissage and friction.

Effleurage is an oiling stroke, good for getting to know your partner's body. Petrissage uses a pumping, kneading motion, which is wonderful for releasing tension. Friction presses into specific problems, and, best used for small areas, gives a feeling of deep release.

Effleurage
This is the fast stroke of any massage, and is used to spread the oil, as well as to make contact and explore your panner's body. Stalling with your hands flat, fingers relaxed, glide lightly down the body, feeling for knots or tension (top left). Allow yourfingers to spread as you sweep round to return, gradually trailing off with the fingertips. Generally, you should increase the pressure as you stroke towards the heart. This stroke relaxes, affecting the nerves beneath the skin, and helps return the blood flow to the heart,

Petrissage
Have deeper strokes, good for fleshy areas, are used. Kneading is the most useful example. Grasp the flesh, pushing your thumb in and away from you. Use your fingers to roll the flesh back toward'yon (bottom left). Like kneading dough, move your hands alternately, with a squeezing, rolling, lifting action. Kneading frees the muscle fibers, increasing circulation,

friction
Here, the thumbs are used to apply specific pressure to joints, deep tissue and muscle over bone. Press down using the pad of your thumb, circling slightly on the spot for penetration (main picture). Friction brings release and stimulates circulation.

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Finger Tips

Fingertips

The surface of the skin contains billions of nerve endings stimulated by the lightest touch. Using feather light strokes yon can increase its sensitivity. Using the pads of your fingers, lightly trail down your partner's skin. 'Walk' your fingers down his back for light sensations. Gently caress the delicate areas of bis face and run your fingers through his bair. When stroking with your fingers, keep your wrists relaxed and flexible and break any contact gently. Brush strokes will make the transition softly from one area of the body to another.contact. you can use it to circle, or put one hand on top of the other, increasing the pressure in the center. for a slight variation, yon can also tilt your band, increasing the pressure either at the edge or the fore finger joint. This is useful when working round the shoulder blade.

Flat of hand

The flat of the band can be used for introductory strokes and to 'iron out' across the back, moving outwards from beside the spine. The movement can also be used where stronger pressure is needed, for example, along the thigh. The flat of the hand used softly gives a warm sense of

Rolling thumbs

As well as using the pads of the thumbs to press, the thumbs can also be used in a rolling movement. Tilting your thumbs very slightly, use the whole length of your thumb to push the muscle away from you. In a rolling movement, one thumb continues where the other stopped. Keep the rolls reasonably short, and by using your thumbs alternately, you create a feeling of one continuous flow. Rolling can be used to work down alongside the spine, on the soles of the feet, palms, or gently down the nose. The fingers can be curled or spread, but press only with the thumbs.

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Be Creative while Massaging

In sensual massage, you can be creative with your body, both in keeping contact with your partner and the parts you use to touch. Hair feels particularly good on the body, either sweeping over the skin, or small flicks over hands and feet. Full body brushes, with skin touching or tantalisingly close, arouse exciting sensations. As you massage. use all pans of your body for contact, arousing your partner's senses and increasing pleasure for you.

Keep the body contact close and sensitive, using rubs and brushes for sensation and delight. A whole body brush is a wonderful experience, while trailing, especially flicking, hair has a pleasurably unexpected feel.

We all instinctively have different ways to touch that convey different messages. Whether we are feeling loving, relaxed, sensual, or play¬ful - we spontaneously express ourselves. The parts of our bodies that we use to express the tenderness of love can be very different from, say, erotic arousal. In a loving massage, we make use of these different nuances, when senses and receptivity are heightened. Like rolling waves, sensual caresses follow strokes for deep relaxation. Erotic arousal becomes dispersed through playful teasing, constantly affirming feelings of love. Sensual massage is a gift of your 100 per cent concentration, an experience to which your partner need only respond. It is an intimate way of expressing your feelings about each other. Like a unique conversation, each massage will be different.

The loving touch This expresses ibe tenderness and closeness vefcel, the softness the other arouses in us watch some more pictures.

The erotic touch Use this to arouse your lover, 26 stimulating both the body and sexual fantasy the sensual touch The experience of feeling our partner through our skin and giving great pleasure.

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Sensual Massage Techniques

Knuckles

Curl your fingers into a fist, with your thumb tucked in or protruding and bend your wrist over so your knuckles are exposed. Now press down into the flesh, using a circling, twisting motion, being attentive to your partner's pressure needs. The knuckles are only used for fleshy, resistant areas, particularly the but¬tocks and, with care, the soles of the feet. By rippling your fingers as you 'knuckle', an intriguing sensation is produced, altering the intensity of the pressure. Keep your wrist straight while knuckling, as this gives strength to the movement.

Heel

Bend your wrist back, lift your palm and fingers slightly and push away from you, along the muscle, with the heel. This gives the stroke added strength, penetrates the muscle deeply, and gives a satisfying sensation. The heel can be used where added strength is needed, such as the thigh muscles. It is used for deep circling, especially over firm, fleshy areas, like the buttocks. It can be used to probe and press into muscular areas, while not losing any sensitivity from your touch. Keep your elbow slightly bent to create an angle between your shoulder, elbow and wrist.

Tiger's mouth


knuckles

So called to describe the shape of the hands when the thumb and forefinger are spread, this position, also known as a 'V' is used to squeeze along muscles after effleurage. Place your thumb and forefinger on either side, adjusting the angle to comfortably fit around the muscles. Push upwards, away from you. adjusting the angle of your hand to accommodate the muscles' increased bulk. Push as far as you can with a firm pressure, but not too hard, until you reach along the muscles' length. You may prefer to use both hands, one behind the other, to give the movement extra strength.

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Stimulating & PlayFul Touch

The stimulating touch This can come as a surprise, waking and alerting your partner. An invigorating touch, it sends pulses throughout the body. Good for sharpening the senses, it gives an immediate energy lift.

The playful touch For fun. to make each other laugh, to play together and to let go together. Teasing each other soon gets rid of seriousness and is a great tension release and natural restorer. Use the ways you naturally touch your partner in addition to your massage strokes. Above all. bring a sense of playfulness to the massage, so that it remains an enjoyable experience. As you approach the massage in an adventurous spirit, a sense of fun will be a vital ingredient. Experiment with touching each other and totally give in to pleasure.

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A RELAXATION MASSAGE

Make sure, first of all, you are happy to give a massage, then check the room for lighting and warmth. Do the relaxation exercises to prepare yourself, tun¬ing in to your own body and how you feel. Make sure you have some oil prepared, that the answering machine is on, and you have enough room so as not to feel restricted.


When giving a massage, especially if it is new to you, it is important to sit and move correctly from the start. Sit on your

1. Easing tension

To begin the massage, kneel at your partner's head, lean forwards and gently rest your bands on bis shoulders (above right). Simply feel the contact. Imagine the flow of energy from you to your part¬ner. At this point, your hands may pick up information about how your partner is feeling, bow tense or relaxed be is. Noting anything you feel, make this a moment simply to connect. After oiling your hands, glide gently down the back (below left), as if your hands were molded to your partner's body. Spread your hands at the lower hack (below center) and sweep upwards to the shoulders in one lung continuous movement (below). Repeat several times to ease tension, ending the strokes flowing down the arms. This is a gentle introductory movement.

2. knead, squeeze and roll

Move to the side and place one band under your partner's shoulder, and one hand on top, close to bis shoulder blade. Gently ease the muscles round the blade, at the same time at pulling slightly toward you with the lower hand (left). Use a gentle kneading movement along the top of the shoulder, starting at the outer edge and moving towards the neck (right). Squeeze and roll to ease any tension, taking care not to dig in loo deep. When you reach the neck, return, and begin again.

Heels, have one leg up, or kneel on a cushion or pillow, but ensure that as far as is possible your spine is straight. Let the movements flow through your arms, but not come from them. Instead, involve your whole body, and move from the hips. Do not strain to exert pressure, especially if your partner is much bigger, but adjust your position and use your whole body weight. Have your hands constantly moving, except for the initial contact and final rest. Keep the flow rhythmic and continuous.

Listen to your partner's body, being aware of the way it changes, and see how it reacts to your strokes. From the beginning, check with your partner for pressure, encouraging feed¬back on what feels good or it they want more. When receiving massage, thoughts and emo¬tions come and go, flitting like clouds across the sky. Be receptive if your partner wants to share these impressions with you, or respect their need for quietness and space.

3. Rolling thumbs

Now return to your partner's bead, and using the movement of rolling thumbs, work the triangle between the base of your partner's neck and the shoulder. Beginning in the angle where you finished the kneading movement, push down, rolling diagonally toward the spine. Do this movement several times, stopping an inch short of the spine.

4. Rolling down the spine

This movement is a continuation, and brings the thumbs down the length of the spine, Increase the length of the rolls, keeping an inch away from the spine, and using alternating strokes down to the lower back. Then, before reaching the pelvic bone return to the upper-back and repeat the movement a number of times. This flowing, rhythmic rolling disperses tension.

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Shoulder and Arm

Move to your partner's side and pick up the arm. supporting the wrist and elbow (left). Place the arm behind your partner's back, so the shoulder blade is exposed. Supporting the shoulder with one hand underneath, with the other, work round the shoulder blade (below, left). Using the flat of your hand to follow the contour, begin at the top of the shoulder and pull round. Work right round to the shoulder joint, and after completing the stroke several times, slide down to the band. Pick up the arm. again supporting the wrist and elbow, and return the arm gently to your partner's side. Starting at the shoulder, use very light brush strokes to trickle down the arm to the fingertips (above right). In a movement like a waterfall, repeat this many times. The stroke, should be quite defined. Kneel at your partner's head and ask him to slowly turn it, using your hands gently as a guide. With the head turned (right), you are ready to repeat the movements on the other shoulder.

increasing demands and pressure, the tendency is for the stress to build up. This has a negative effect on us. We become neurotic, agitated, anxious, our minds constantly overactive and unable to switch off Sleeping or eating badly, using drugs or alcohol, we lose touch with our¬selves and damage our relationships. Physically, we become tense, our muscles can harden and tighten; we may suffer from headaches, back problems and restricted movement.Some more pictures which can guide you the correct way to follow the techniques.

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Effleuraging the Buttocks

The beauty of massage is that it is a natural treatment, it feels good and can have a pro¬found effect on us. Massaging the muscles frees up any congestion. Loosening contracted muscle fibers, it aids the elimination of waste products via the blood and lymph. Massage stimulates the circulation, can lower blood pressure, and has a tonic effect on the nerves. The nerves relate directly to our organs, so it is often the case that massage can regulate the body, helping it function more efficiently- The energy that was diverted to maintaining a state of tension is now released, and the feeling is more vibrant. Through the effect on the ner¬vous system, the mind can gradually quieten, producing an all-over feeling of well-being

After massaging the upper back, move down your partner's body to effleurage the buttocks. Put a little oil on your hands, then place them on the top to begin the stroke. With a gliding movement, hands molded to the body, sweep out and round, following the con¬tour of the hips. Keep the movement generous, and following the swell of flesh, come round to the crease and sweep upwards to start again. This movement focuses sensation on the buttocks, in preparation for the deeper strokes to follow. At the same time as being extremely pleasurable to massage, the buttocks can cany a lot of tension, which is not actually felt. So use your hands to sense out your partner's muscles, and. if tense, they should begin to release under your hands. The buttocks contain the strong gluteal muscles, so the pressure you use in this area can be reasonably fun. Remember to start with your hands in a sort of diving position, then spread the fingers to include as much flesh as you can. As many people spend much of their lives sitting down, this particular movement can give enormous satisfaction.

circling the sacrum

Placing one band on top of the other far a steady pressure, position your bands over your partner's sacrum. This is the central, bony triangle that ends fust below where the buttock crease begins. With the movement going anti-clockwise, circle your hands broadly around the sacrum V shape. Keep your fingers flat over the bone, applying a steady, medium-light pressure. This stroke dispels a lot of tension. In the sacral area lies an important nerve center, mainly connecting to the legs. By easing in this way the nerves are soothed, and your partner will feel the effect in the, hips and lower back. Check to make sure the pressure feels right and that you are not applying fingertip pressure as you move. The circling should be slow, generous, and feet extremely satisfying, both to the one receiving and the one who gives. After completing the circles several times, you wilt feel loosening in the area as a whole. This signals it is now time to turn your attention back to the buttocks

Some more good postures to follow

particular attention between the shoulder blades, and from there, hop down the rest of the spine, still with the thumbs. Ibis should be quite light and bouncy, pressing briefly, at larger intervals, down to the lower back (below). From here.

kneading the back


Leaning across to your partner's opposite buttock, begin to knead, rolling and squeezing the flesh (above). Firm, lively pressure feels good here the movement should be deep and liberating. The kneading movement continues naturally up the back (above right), following the spine, an inch away, right up to the neck. Although the movement here will be narrower and more shallow, the effect is wonderfully far-reaching. Switch sides, and repeat these two movements, then come down the back, using your thumbs (above). Press with the pads, at even intervals, into the muscle bands either side of the spine. Pay nail your fingers down the lower spine, then place your hands to rest across the back (main picture). Spend some moments here, just both of you resting. It is a soft and gentle way to complete the back

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Joy giving Massage Tips

THE JOY OF GIVING


Perhaps the real heart of massage is the human contact that it provides. Just being touched and affirmed is often enough. When giving massage, take care not to be judge¬mental; it is a process of coming together, not one of standing back. Through massage we once again feel comfortable with our bodies, rediscovering just how great the body feels. Feeling new, we see the world with fresh eyes, rediscovering our enthusiasm for simple things.


As the person giving massage, we can do a lot for our partner. It is a wonderful skill to develop. Giving is also relaxing, so as we

. Rolling the head


Apply a little oil to your hands. With your partner on bis back, neck straight, place your hands on either side of the head. Cup your hands around the base, fingers touching at the back of the neck. Now, roll your partner's head using your left hand, the right hand giving light support. The bead should roll quite naturally. If your partner is tense, encourage him to let go. Repeat using your right hand, and gently roll the head the other way

pulling the neck


Place your hands under the neck, cupping around the base of the head. Pull back gently toward you, keep your fingers under the bony ridge of the skull. The direction of the pull is like a continuation of the spine, pulling back, rather than up. Do this movement just once.

Turning the head

To turn the head, cup both hands on either side, your thumbs in front of the ears, forefingers behind. Sow. cradling the bead, turn it very gently, so it rests on top of your hand. The beauty of receiving massage is that, for once, there is no need to make an effort of any kind.

Pushing the shoulder


with your right hand still supporting the head, slide your left down your partner's neck and along the shoulder. When you reach the edge of the shoulder, gently push down away from you, giving the neck muscles a satisfying stretch. To increase the stretch, pull slightly with your right hand. Again, you should do'. this movement just one time.

Rotating the scalp


Return your left hand to your partner's head, and spreading your fingers, press down with the pads. Now use your whole hand to make a circling movement on the scalp, feeling skin move over bone. Rotate one area, then move on. Turn your partner's bead to repeat movements massage, our own bodies also let go. In being the giver, you are the one taking responsibility for a while, so it is up to you to make sure you have everything you will need.


A relaxation massage is a completely differ¬ent experience. You will find out many new-things about your partner. Getting to know your partner's tension means knowing your partner better. To relieve that tension is an invaluable gift. The massage is for your enjoy¬ment, so as you both relax, the pleasure will flow between you.

We all experience the need to relax, to have time when there arc no demands put upon us. To have the luxury of regaining our equilibri¬um, letting stresses and strains simply drain away. Through a relaxation massage, the process of relaxing and being relaxed by our partner creates a special atmosphere of intimacy and trust. Putting ourselves, literally, into our part¬ner's hands increases the understanding on both sides. At the same time, being refreshed and in a relaxed frame of mind leads on to greater creativity, and in turn, to better sex. When giving a relaxation massage, your mind is on your partner, and your wish and ability to help. While sensually pleasurable, the mas¬sage relaxes rather than arouses. There is no pressure on your partner to respond. Satisfaction comes as your partner visibly lets go, a smile of enjoyment and relief creeping across his or her face.


If the relaxation massage is to be successful, your partner must want to relax. It is no good going through the motions with someone who is unwilling to receive. It is a decision taken before you start, and is your partner's most important contribution to the massage.

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SENSUAL TOUCH

Giving your partner a full sensual body massage is almost an extension of the movements with which you will now be familiar. A sensual massage incorporates the strokes used for relaxation with caresses to arouse and stimu¬late. While you relax your partner's body, you arouse and heighten the senses through your movements. As you use your hands, your finger¬tips play over your partner, making contact, releasing slowly, and promising more. Allow the movements of the massage to draw your part¬ner's senses to your hands as they move in gen¬tle, flowing erotic rhythms.

The quality of your touch, the way you use your hands, changes when you give a sensual massage. It is a powerful combination. Soft, releasing strokes, firm pressure strokes to pene¬trate the muscles, together with light, tantalizing touches. The changes go in cycles, the move¬ments rhythmic and flowing, blending from one into the next. To relax your partner use soft, soothing strokes to explore the body and ease away any immediate tension. The pressure, while gentle, is definite and firm. Deep pressure strokes go right into the body, reducing any build-up of tension in the muscles. The relief of being touched so deeply is almost tangible. To enhance your sensual strokes, use a lighter touch that is less defined, releasing slowly, and lingering as you finish. For example, after squeezing up a muscle, gently release your band, then trail your fingers delicately along the skin. The final moments of the movement become almost imper¬ceptible. As you massage, use your hands to build the excitement for your partner, then through stillness discharge the feelings you have aroused throughout the body.

When you give a massage for relaxation, your body movements are unobtrusive, the focus being the therapeutic benefits for your partner. As you give a sensual massage, try to involve your body more and your enjoyment and whole-heartedness will be communicated to your part¬ner. Sensual brushes and full skin contact will enhance your partner's experience, adding to the sensual pleasure. During massage, pay attention to the nuances of touch, exploring and making contact creatively. Every stroke should be a source of pleasure for your partner, so it is important to listen to the reponses of the body. you will very quickly feel or sense if something is not quite tight. Ask your partner to provide feedback as you go along. Far from detracting from the massage this enhances your communi¬cation. The beauty comes when you are so finely toned to each other that needs and responses are completely automatic. At first you will need to practice a little. While the hands learn surprisingly fast, the most important factor is the flow of feelings from your heart. If you are massaging simply to give to your partner, your partner's body will trust your hands. Trust is a viral ingredient of the massage and Increases as the experience progresses. The massage should be an affirmation of your partner. As you will discover, there is nothing so deeply erotic. As you perform the movements, use the sounds of your breathing, your own unique noises, to please and arouse your partner. There can be nothing more enjoy¬able for your partner than to know that you are receiving pleasure from giving massage. This applies equally as you receive. Express your appreciation and satisfaction.

Through sensual massage, each area of the body is brought to life, in a process of continuing discovery. The soft, inner parts of the body are extremely sensual and erotic. For example, the crook of the elbow, the throat or the back of the knee will all tingle with sensuality when touched. While special areas of the body stimulate more than Others, arousing massage makes the whole body an erogenous zone. Take time to touch and explore, deriving pleasure from each new discovery. Use the process of the massage to create and be inventive, developing the eroticism of the body. Touching sensually and sensi¬tively, you can electrify your partner increasing the intensify between you.

In the following pages you have a step-by step guide to a full, flowing sensual massage. Each stage and movement follows on from the next, covering both the back and the front of the body. The movements from the relaxation massage are also included. Use the sequence to guide you, incorporating your own experience and ideas, and of course your own unique knowledge of your partner. Also included is more general information to give you further insights into the body and more especially into your partner. Everything is there simply to be used. Enjoy bringing the strokes to life.

kneading

After you have effleuraged the whole back, you gently knead the top of the shoulder with your thumbs, squeezing the little rolls of flesh with your fingertips. Beginning at the outer edge, continue the movement to the neck, ending with longer teasing squeezes to draw your partner's senses. You should always work on the shoulder facing away from you, where the muscle is exposed. As you knead the shoulder, brush the arms or knead the neck, play with your partner's senses, varying the intensity of your touch.

circling

After the kneading motion, press your thumb in along the muscle, making small half-circling movements from the edge of the shoulder inwards. Press firmly to begin the circle, easing the pressure as the thumb moves round. Draw your thumb away from each circle lightly and slowly. Tin's continues the easing effect that you began with the kneading. After easing, let the pressure trail away, continuing contact and arousal with your fingertips. Easing the muscles is much more effective than using hard pressure.time, as your hands caress and feel out the body in the first effleurage, note the sensations your partners skin produces in your hands. Feel the texture, any changes in roughness or smooth¬ness, look at the color, the elasticity and the warmth. Depending on her mood, health, or the day's experience, the skin will have changed subtly from your last remembrance of it. Pay attention to your own feelings as you massage in the oil, allowing your hands to (low over the skin. Allow the invitation of your partner's skin to draw your hands into contact with the back.

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GENERAL POINTS ABOUT BACK MASSAGE

The back is a large and variable area to massage and you will need to keep in mind as you work that the kind of pressure on the shoulders, lower back and buttocks needs to be different. You may find quite of a lot of tension has collected in the shoulders, especially in the 'trapezius' muscle that tuns across the shoulders, neck and upper back. Pressure here should be sensitive and only slightly firm. With tight muscles it is tempting to use hard pressure but it you press too hard the muscles will tight hack.

If you like, before you start the sensual massage on the shoulders, you can incorporate some of the relaxation massage . Once you have massaged the shoulders, move down to the lower back. Exploring the area, glide over the soft contours of the sacrum, buttocks and hips. The lower back can be a particularly vulnerable or strained area, and tightness here can cut off full sensations. Some relaxation move ments before the sensual massage will relax the lower back and buttocks, opening your partner up to the full freedom of sensual feeling.gentle pressure. Keeping an inch out from the spine, press evenly along the muscle bands, paying attention where you feel raised areas of muscle. Use the sensitivity of your fingers to feel the texture and tightness, and as you press-correspond your movements to your partner's exhalation. As nerves branch out from the spine connecting to the whole body, this will be a highly sensitive and releasing movement for your partner. As you reach the top of the neck, bring your hands once more to your partner's lower back to draw awareness away from them

stroking

Move to your partner's side after completing the thumb rolls from the fleshy shoulder triangle to the spine Stroke down the muscles to the side of the spine with the whole of your hand, using light, caressing movements. Alternating your hands, trail lightly with your fingertips as you -complete each stroke, lingering over the skin. Draw down, using these rolling brushstrokes, from the neck to the base of the spine.

A deeper pressure used around the buttocks feels immediately satisfying and releases strong erotic, sensual feelings. Follow deep relaxation round the hips by muscle stimulation, then soft arousing skin caresses to bring the senses to life. Relaxation followed by caresses and arousal provide a combination that is difficult to resist.

When you come to massaging the spine and neck, you should be particularly careful. Both areas are very sensitive and require a more head, and fully connect the back. This move¬ment is also a reminder of the feelings earlier aroused, as gentle sensations diffuse throughout the body. you may choose at this point to con¬tinue the body massage, or take time to explore your partner's back in creative ways. Of all the areas of the body, the back appreciates massage most. You will find that you have to change position several times as you massage the back. Make sure you have enough room to maneuver.

.final strokes - kneading and brushing

To complete your massage of the upper back, move your partner's arm behind her back, easing the muscle around the shoulder blade. Still with your lower hand supporting her shoulder, use the heel of your hand to push the muscles on the blade itself (main picture). Move your hand diagonally, toward the shoulder joint, pushing slowly and deeply along the muscles. Ease the pressure to follow the contour of the shoulder down the arm. Bringing the arm back to your partner's side, use light brushstrokes all the way down to the fingertips (above). Brush slowly and sensually, until, fingertip to fingertip, you continue the sensation even after your hand has gone. Gently knead your partner's neck (below), using slow, gentle strokes to tease out any tension, then hold the hair softly as she turns her head. Knead once again, then repeat the movements on the other side

Some Sensual touches really give you partner the real Joy of life of any time.

start to knead your partner's buttocks with a satisfying, generous movement. Then press in with the heel of your hand, making deep, probing, circling movements, bringing the pressure in toward you (below left). Feel the muscles, press around the hips,

The buttocks
Moving to your partner's legs, pour a little more oil into your hands. Now begin to effleurage the buttocks (main picture). Fan and spread your fingers, following the body contours, around the lower back, hips and the tops of the thighs. Sweep your hands upwards and outwards, shaped to the curves of flesh, until every inch is covered with a film of oil. With your hands pressing down and inwards, circle the heels into the buttocks, moving down, upwards and out to loosen the muscles (above). Try sacral circling, then spread your hands out across the back (above). As you move the hands apart, feel the dimples and the curves of the buttocks, ending the movement with your hands curved around the hips. Moving across to the side.easing out any tensions to bring the area to life. Continue this movement with your fingertips (above), gradually easing into the hip joint to send wonderful sensations of deep release through your partner's pelvis and thighs.

This the best part of the sensual massage.

knuckling

To complete the deep pressure movements, form your hand into a fist, pressing firmly, yet sensitively, with your knuckles. As your hands are now familiar with the area, you will be able to loosen tension. Press into the flesh, feeling how the buttocks respond under your touch, encouraging the muscles to release and open

BODY AWARENESS

The way we seem to see things means that we tend to divide them into parts. But the reality is that each area of the body opens into another and that every part is connected to the next. The powerful shoulders are needed for arm movement, the legs are affected by the lower back. The lower back leads into the swell of the buttocks, the ribs follow round to the swell of the breasts. Without judgement, preferences, likes or dislikes, simply open your mind as your fin¬gers explore. With each stroke, a whole new world opens up, every inch of skin has something different to reveal.

plucking


This is a light-hearted and stimulating movement that pulls the flesh away from the body. Keeping your wrists relaxed, pull mounds of flesh between your fingers and thumbs up toward you. Alternate your hands to make quick, light, plucking movements, enjoying the rippling of your partners flesh. This playful movement will stimulate and arouse your partner, spreading tingling or tickling sensations over the buttocks and up the back.

arousal
Now that the buttocks are alive and tingling, stroke up very, very lightly between them with the backs of your hands. Watch your partner's skin thrill to the touch as you continue. As sensations heighten, use a spreading stroke to diffuse erotic feelings.

The skin is the largest organ of the body. Sensory receptors lie just below its surface, relaying mes-sages to the central nervous system. The sense receptors responding to touch are very sensi¬tive, and can be stimulated by extremely light pressure. Some respond to a firm pressure, while others alert the body to pain. As you massage, a lighter pressure will generally arouse and stim¬ulate, while a heavier pressure will relax and release the body. Use variations of pressure for the sensual massage, arousing, releasing then Arousing again. Let the movements and strokes blend one into the other, so alternating and changing, the rhythm remains smooth. Your partner's senses should be following your hands but left guessing, and you should not make any sudden movements.

The intimacy of the contact is very special. Profound knowledge and insights into your partner can develop. Simply keep the massage flowing, alert to your partner's response The feelings the massage arouses in you flow through your hands, to change, rise and fall and guide your touch. As feelings increase, and your own senses are aroused, allow this to inspire your strokes. The greater your own sensations and intuitive responses, the greater your enjoy¬ment will be. As growing enthusiasm is felt by one partner, so the other will respond in kind. Let the feelings between you build and build.

diffusion
Cup your hands over the sacrum, then slowly pull your hands apart, hugging them over the hips and hinging them down the thighs. Trail off with your fingertips as you complete the stroke.

'ironing'

Move your position so that you can reach the entire back easily, in preparation for the 'ironing' stroke. Starting the movement just above the hips, position your hands either side of the spine. The heels face inwards, fingertips spreading out across the back. Then start to draw your hands apart, using a firm, even pressure, to slide your fingers around the ribs. With the whole of the flat of the hand, iron out the muscles as you push away from the spine, dispersing tension in the dorsal muscles, the broad muscles that help move the arms (right). As your heels move towards your partner's sides, add light caressing touches with your fingers to the feelings of stretch and release. 'Then with your fingertips, drag back toward the spine, bringing the heels of your bands back together. Position your hands for the next stroke slightly further up the back, and with no break in continuity, repeat the stroke. Work leisurely up the back. Keep the pressure on the outward strokes, your movements big and generous, which your partner will enjoy. As you come to the upper back, hook your hands around her shoulders, pulling very slightly up and back toward you (right.)

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